Women say they want someone kind, loyal, hardworking, calm and end up dating a total loafer. Women have an idea of what they WANT but what they are attracted to is completely different. They may think of the future and say they want someone kind and loyal but they’re attracted to someone abusive, hulky bulky, bearded guy. Like how Tessa is attracted to Hardin in the After trilogy. They are attracted to men who they know aren’t a good fit for them and possess the chance of ruining their life but still want. Of course, not every woman thinks this way but why do most of them do?