Let’s say your partner has a lot of work pressure and she’s stressed out. She explained everything, and you understood everything. Now you have two options, you can either solve her problem or you can support her. People generally solve their partner’s problems because they don’t want them to be upset or sad. Many times, after solving, they think themselves superior to their partner and think that their partner owes them. This is wrong. No, not ‘the superior’ thing, the whole ‘solving their problem’ thing.

In most cases, women don’t want you to solve their problems. She wants you to listen to her, listen to her problems without judging, without you giving your opinions. Bohot baar you’ll get irritated, you might not want to listen to her, you’ll think she’s stressed out and only a solution can help her relax. But no, she doesn’t want this. In most cases, she wants you to listen.

When you directly solve their problem, you’re stopping them to grow. Because it’s you who is solving it, not them. Thus, they’re not growing and neither are you (because it’s not your job, it’s there’s and what the hell are you gonna achieve by solving their problem?)

So. Just. Support. Them. Let them think by themselves and just help (don’t solve it, just help) them. Tell them that you are here and you’ll support them with any decision they make.